How to avoid dating games
The uninterested person, if they have agreed to a date will not have a clear idea of when you can meet again in the future.It’s actually possible that they will just stand you up and leave you waiting alone at the restaurant.If someone is playing hard to get they will avoid hurting your feelings unnecessarily.They will call when they are thinking of you and if they say they will meet for coffee then that’s what they will do.The results show that those seeking a long term relationship had a better success rate when playing hard to get. Our subconscious is probably telling us that if your prospective partner is willing to put in the hard work, then they are probably in for the long haul.The problem with going down this path is that in all likelihood your love interest will be pulling the same stunt.You never want to really show someone you're interested in how you're feeling, right? Ultimately, I was so far removed from my real self during my dates that my search for love felt way more exhausting than fulfilling.I felt inauthentic and depleted, certainly the ingredients for finding love.
Following “The Rules” that state that you cannot seem too interested in a guy is probably the wrong way to go about getting your man. Do we really think that “treat ’em mean to keep ’em keen” is really all it’s cracked up to be?The problem is that this way of thinking perpetuates all of the dating games we know (and probably don't like).Well, as a perfectionist and rule-abider, I took my studies very seriously, always making sure to count the minutes before responding to a text and to keep my guard up a bit on the first few dates; I'm ashamed to admit that I even practiced the aloof pout a few times.It seems that the dating world is full of guys being overly cool and girls being uncommonly cold.How then, can we find our perfect match if both guys and girls try their best to seem uninterested?
But the fact that they still give you some kind of encouraging signal suggests that you are the one they want to get “caught” by.